I’ve talked about uniform dressing and how important I think it is to developing your “lewk”. This outfit is definitely one of my uniforms – last year I wore this three-shoulder vest so much that people would comment when I wasn’t wearing it. I was like a child with their blanky.

So I was naturally surprised when I reviewed my shots of this outfit and struggled to find even a single usable image that I liked. Could my passion for one of my beloved uniforms be cooling?!? After making several passes through all of my shots, I ultimately came to the conclusion that it’s my hair that I’m in hate with and not the look. You see, I shot these photos about three weeks ago – the day after getting a bleach and cut.

One of the challenges that all short-haired women will commiserate with each other about is the “haircut sweetspot”. I think women who have bangs also will know what I’m talking about. Basically, what happens is this:
- you go and get your normal haircut and feel for two weeks that your hair is too short and it makes your stupid face look too stupid >:-(
- after two weeks and one day go by, you will be in love with your hair. It now frames your face just so, making you feel feminine again!
- after four weeks and one day, your hair will be a poofy mess that you have no control of! It will form curly wings all over your head and try to fly off while you aren’t watching it! Bad hair, Bad!
- On week 5, you go visit your beloved colorist and stylist and repeat the process all over again.

This is the short hair cycle. By the way, I think men always have short hair problems and that is why many of the ones I know go for a haircut every three weeks.

OUTFIT DETAILS - Harput’s Three Hole Leather Vest; Velvet by Graham & Spencer Long Sleeve Tunic; Helmut Lang Leggings; Express Sandals; Jewelmint knuckle ring; J Crew necklace; & Other Stories clutch

A few weeks ago, as I was walking back to my office from getting a coffee I had a realization that I was wearing an “outfit”, that I had a “look”, and that I felt awesome! I’m not a supremely self-confident person on a regular basis, so I actually like to stop and acknowledge moments in my life when I DO feel good about myself. This particular moment really solidified for me the notion that fashion, styling, and creative self-expression can sometimes be the most powerful tool for us to develop our most confident and successful selves. When the clothes that you wear are making you feel your best, you can take the mental space that was making you feel fat or self-conscious or [insert your perceived flaw here] and focus on other things that you REALLY want to be thinking about. So, yes, I believe that the clothes do make the wo/man

One of the main reasons I finally started posting content a few months ago (after nearly 10 years of false starts) was precisely because I was at a low point and felt like I just needed some accountability to dress better and be better. The supporting goal in making that statement was to help other people find their best, most badass selves that will make them kill it every day. I’m looking forward to the chance to connect with more people in 2015 and go on this journey together.

Here’s hoping everyone has an extremely badass 2015!

OUTFIT DETAILS - American Apparel Turtleneck Dress; AYR Pants; Helmut Lang Vest; J Crew Necklace; Luv AJ x Jewelmint Rings; Express Mules; NARS Roman Holiday Lipstick

Short-Haired Blues

Have a badass 2015!